How to Communicate effectively?

How to Communicate effectively?

December 27th, 2019

Communication is required in lives, everyone communicates in their natural patterns but there are lots of things through which communication skills can be improved to win the world!

Let's talk about a few tips successful people follow.

Don’t stop speaking... But wait for the right moment!

Who says you should not speak too much? Rather we can learn how to stop and wait for the right moment! Yes, talking too much will cause the waste of your energy and will make you less important or annoying to the people surrounding you.

“Conversation is a two-way street. You have to listen as much as you talk.”

However, if you learn to stop until the right moment and speak, you may know the following things before you speak.

Speaking, in the end, will benefit you in these ways:

  • You’ll get a chance to think.
  • You would understand the opinions of all others before you put your opinions.
  • People will feel they are given importance and listened to.
  • People love to be seen and heard so when you empathize with them, they will feel comfortable in your presence.
  • They will only open up if you show that you’re interested.
  • You may end up leaving a few points as those points are already discussed before your turn came! That will save your energy too.
  • You will know people's mindsets and this may change your strategy speaking in the end. This will make your talk more efficient.

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Smile and Speed

A key technique to make a better impression is to smile.

Not only does smiling make you physically feel better, but according to research, smiling makes you seem courteous, likable and competent.

Another tip to make a good first impression is to talk slow, according to FBI behavior expert Robin Dreeke.

“When individuals speak slowly and clearly, they tend to sound more credible than those who speak quickly.”

Stop Judging

Yes, just stop judging people, especially from their faces. You meet people in your life who looks pretty and friendly but you end up knowing that their nature is not suitable to you and some people look weird or angry but when you meet and interact with them, you find them very polite, calm and friendly. This is the life! So stop judging people from their faces or any other things which you SEE.

Just step up and reach them without being shy and start connecting with them. Mostly you will find them suitable for your nature and few of them may change your life too!

Never do it

Your communication skills will improve more when you don’t do bad things compared to when you do good things. So here are a few points which you should not or never do.

  • Don’t talk off-topic. Stick with the topic of what people talking about and wait for the right moment to speak about some other topic.
  • Don’t talk while someone is talking to you even if you disagree. Just remember your point till he/she completes it.
  • Don’t look at your phone or anywhere else, rather look at the speaker.
  • Don’t think and focus on speakers words. You will be able to get them on the first attempt and it will also improve your ability to focus.
  • Don’t think about the new answers/questions when someone is speaking.

According to hackspirit.com:

We do this because the average speech rates are between 125 and 175 words, whereas we can process between 400 to 800 words a minute, so we believe that we can use that extra time to think about other things, like what we’re going to say.

One study conducted by Faye Doell (2003) showed that there are two different types of listening: “listening to understand” and “listening to respond”. Those who “listen to understand” have greater success in their interpersonal relationships than others.

Quarrels

Quarrels are part of life. You may jump into a quarrel with your cousins, friends or partners but wait, don’t worry about that because this is life! The solution is that you have to tackle and win the battle with yourself first. That is what Stephen’s this thought says:

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“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” – Stephen Covey

Bonus Tips

  • Have an open posture: It’s important to feel relaxed, but don’t slouch. Don’t close yourself off with folded arms or with your hands on your hips.
  • Use a firm handshake: However, don’t get too carried away and cause pain to the other person. Hold it firmly but don’t go further.
  • Main eye contact: Whether they’re speaking or you are, make sure to hold the other person’s gaze for a few seconds at a time. This will show that you’re engaged and sincere.
  • Smile when appropriate: Smiling gets the positive vibes going and will make you appear nice and trustworthy.
  • Avoid touching your face: People who touch their face can appear dishonest.

“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…. A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words. ” – Dr. Rachel Naomi Remen